Let's be honest—fear and trepidation are no picnic. Few of us want to feel on edge or out of control with worry. Still, anxiety isn’t a “one-size-fits-all” condition. While it’s one of the most common mental health issues in the world, different forms of anxiety can affect people in an assortment of ways. One particular type of anxiety stems from performing in front of others. We call it performance anxiety.
While it's normal to feel a little nervous in unfamiliar situations, there is a significant difference between having butterflies in your stomach and experiencing performance anxiety. First, it’s important to understand that the term “performance anxiety” is not a technical one. However, it is a readily recognizable condition. Some call it stage fright, depending on the situation.
Most people recognize performance anxiety as a feeling of fear, dread, or panic about executing a task in front of a group or an individual. It’s often so frustrating because it can be linked to an activity or task you actually want to do. For instance, you may feel overwhelmed and agitated when you step on stage to play the instrument you love, toast your best friend, or give a presentation that advances your career goals.
It’s important to know that you aren’t alone and that overcoming performance anxiety is entirely possible. Let’s start by looking a bit closer at what you might be experiencing:
How Do You Know If You Have Performance Anxiety?
Essentially, performance anxiety is the debilitating fear of having the attention on you when it’s time to fulfill an expectation. While we tend to think of performance anxiety as something people experience before speaking or performing in front of a large crowd, it can affect you on a much smaller scale, as well. Whether you are giving a presentation at work or pleasing your partner in the bedroom, does your mind jump to the worst possible scenario? Do failure and humiliation feel imminent?
If you do suffer from performance anxiety, you know that this kind of fear often begins long before the task commences. It can involve a sense of inevitable defeat and deep worry about others’ perceptions. You may feel convinced of the potential for ridicule. You may have difficulty believing that, when all is said and done, the result won’t be a disappointment for all involved.
Whenever you feel pressure to do something well and anyone is watching, performance anxiety can threaten to overwhelm you. Thus, it’s important to recognize your symptoms and triggers.
Pay Attention to These Signs & Triggers of Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety symptoms differ depending on the type of performance that triggers the anxiety. However, most people experience some common physical symptoms. Are you experiencing
rapid heartbeat,
fast breathing,
nausea,
trembling
dry mouth
sweaty or clammy hands,
muscle tension and headaches, etc?
In addition to physical symptoms, performance anxiety can induce psychological and emotional symptoms like
dissociation,
memory and focus issues,
panic attacks,
negative thought patterns,
undue self-criticism and self-doubt,
unrealistic expectations,
a heightened focus on failure,
extreme embarrassment and apprehension, etc.
In reaction to the symptoms above, you might experience these behavioral and interpersonal shifts too:
diminished capability or performance
avoidance
social distance and withdrawal
strained interactions or inability to cooperate well with others
As you can imagine, just a few of these symptoms can merge and only add to the pressure you feel to perform well. Whether you experience them simultaneously or cyclically, the dread and impact are exacerbated. Recognizing the symptoms of performance anxiety is essential, but equally vital is understanding what triggers your fear. For example, it may be helpful to ask yourself questions like:
Do I feel confident presenting a written report but freeze when asked to submit a verbal presentation?
Am I secure and active in one-on-one connections but struggling to connect with my coworkers?
Is it easier to perform new tasks for strangers or people I don’t know?
Try to step back and look at your reactions objectively. Recognizing your triggers can help pinpoint the actual root of your performance anxiety.
So, is there a way to overcome such worry? How can you keep irrational fear from interfering with your goals, your relationships, and the activities you enjoy?
Start Recovery with Self-Compassion
Performance anxiety can wear down your self-esteem considerably. With every upsetting performance experience, it is easy to fall into a pattern of self-blame, withdrawal, or shame. You need your inner voice to be kind and to seek external voices that encourage you.
Strategies like mindfulness and compassionate self-talk (before and during performance periods) can positively affect how you perceive and manage your experience. You can then become more aware of your thoughts and emotions, accept them, and reduce performance-related stress. When coping is optimized this way, there is a greater chance you’ll start performing confidently and engage meaningfully.
To overcome your fear and worry, it is helpful to assess whether your expectations are reasonable and achievable. Replacing negative thoughts with more supportive, compassionate ones can be an effective way to find relief.
If you've been grappling with persistent performance anxiety, remember that there is no shame in seeking help. You don't have to face this fear alone. For comprehensive and lasting solutions, therapy is frequently the most effective choice.
Anxiety Counseling: Seek Help to Fear Less & Feel Better
Anxiety treatment can help you reshape your mindset with practical coping tools and examine the roots of your performance anxiety. A professional counselor can be an encourager outside of your head. Offering time, support, and expertise, they can help you understand your fear and chart a path to recovery. Together, work through your concerns and challenge unhelpful thoughts in a safe space, without judgment.
Through anxiety treatment, you can shift your perspective and silence the negative self-talk that intensifies your distress. If you're prepared to confront your fear, please reach out for more information or schedule an appointment.
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